Many people think I’m a desperate housewife now, cos’ I not only choose to marry this man, I also decide to have his babe!
Especially, when people know we’re going to have at least 3 kids, their first response is: “Great!” And then, 90 % of they would show their sympathy from eyes and say, "Though, you must earn a lot of money to raise 3 kids!"
A friend even said, “What? 3 kids? Sunny, are you a sow?”
Do you think I’m a freak? I just follow the rule of nature. In my parents’ generation, it’s quite common to have at least 2 kids. But now the birth rate of Taiwan is the lowest in the world. So I start to think why many married couples choose not to have kids and I found the top 1 reason is “I cannot afford to raise kids.”
If it is true, why are the poorer people in India so brave to have children? The truth is, it is not we cannot afford to have kids; it is we hesitate whether we should have kids.
But what makes us hesitate so much? It’s because we receive too much information and become smarter.
In my parents’ time, a person would make important decisions by 擲茭; from buying a house to praying for a Mr. Right, whatever the God said, he/she would deeply believe in it. Nowadays, if we cannot make up our minds, we would google “answer” on internet. We ask how much money we should earn a year; we ask whether we should marry this guy. But the more we search on internet, the more hesitations we get, because there’s too much information. These informations could be unilateral. They could be noises.
Indeed, information keeps us smart. But sometimes we are too smart to forget who we are and what we want. We would rather follow brain than heart. We might measure how many diapers and how much hours we spend on a babe, however we forget happiness is not measurable.
Besides, too much information could also make us become “average and normal” people if we only take other’s opinions. In this democratic society, the minority should obey majority. However, we are doing what everyone is doing, letting ourselves live in a world of comparison. For example, a lot of parents are afraid of their children would be left behind, so they send them to cram school, learning English, violin, chess…Is this what child really need? Or we just follow the public’s opinion?
In the movie “Forest Gump,” whenever people ask Gump “Are you a silly?” He always answers “stupid is as stupid does.” It seems I am a stupid who wants to have 3 babes with this man. Yes, I don’t use my brain. You can say I have cognitive dissonance. But I’m happy, because I know the real answer is in the heart. Toast master of the evening.
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