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Hey, do you want to know a secret?

XXX, since you are my good friend, I am going to tell you that I know something you don't know. “What? Joe is a gay!” “Shi…..Don’t tell others.”  

Sometimes my philosopher husband questions me, “Are you discussing anything meaningful for life?” No, no at all! Actually what I talk about is GARBAGE.   But you know, people need to vent their anger and dissatisfaction.   When I gossip, I just dump garbage from my mind and purify my soul.    

For example, when I watch TV show at home, I always have comment on those actresses. “Hey honey, trust me, they all have nose job and breast enlargement. Their noses and boobs are all fake, unlike me! Natural!” Then I keep gossiping who has plastic surgery recently, on and on. Now my husband is deeply convinced that besides me, all beautiful girls’ noses and breasts are not real.

Especially in the office, every employee has the same enemy—the Boss. Though we cannot talk back to our boss in the office, we can form “the Avengers” to take revenge on him in lunch time. I think my boss will never know we know how many details about him.

However, how about you become the gossip material one day? I had a painful experience. My first job was in TV station and the office culture there was not cordial; everyone intrigued against each other to get promotion. One day, I found there was a slander on me. I felt so angry, but my boss comforted me, “People gossip about you if t his idea easily. You can reply “Umm…I’m not familiar with him, so I don’t understand very well ” Remember, keep your position neutral. Whatever you say, it hey feel jealous of you, which means you are not nobody. Never mind.“ 

Yes, if it’s not true, never mind. But because of this experience, I deeply realize gossip might hurt people. However, in a public speaking or social meeting, it’s impossible not to get involved in gossip. Thus, how to be wise when hearing gossip? I got three principles in my mind: 1. Don’t share 2. Don’t get high 3. Don’t comment

For example, when you hear a gossip “The real purpose for Edward to join Sunrise is that he wants to know girls.” Then the 提問者 might inquire your opinion to make sure whether you are on the same side. When you are asked, “Edward is such a bad guy! How do you think?” Even you cannot agree with him anymore, but don’t echo

may be forwarded and twisted.

According to a research, Women who gossip live a happier and healthier life.

I think gossip is a social skill, not a character flaw. Only when you don’t handle it well that you get into trouble. Do you have any juicy gossip you think it is too good to keep to yourself? Let’s gossip in 2nd round.